The age-old question, or not. What is a swinger exactly? The stigma of the word ‘swinger’ takes many people back to the 1960s and 1970s where free love was ‘in style’ as if it were a phase. This term turns this turns a lot of people off. Some people refer to the ‘lifestyle’ or the ‘swinging scene’ or just the ‘scene.’ There is no incorrect way to address it. The term ‘monogamish’ has become popular as well as consensual non-monogamy or ethical non-monogamy. Whatever you choose to call it, it is something that has always been going on and seems to be trending up in popularity. There is no way to tell if that because more people are doing it or more people are just being honest about doing it.

People tend to keep the utmost discretion while engaging in these types of open relationships. Essentially a swinger is a couple that engages in sexual activity with people outside of their monogamous relationship but typically together. This can include engaging in sexual activity with one additional person or another couple(s). Open relationships create a new level of trust and intimacy within a couple’s relationship. It can allow for the most open and vulnerable opportunities to present themselves in a secure monogamous relationship. Obviously, this is not for a relationship that needs repair or suffers emotional issues. Typically the ideal swinger couple would be those who have been together for some time, and both understand the dynamics of an open relationship. Some people like to watch their partner engage sexually with another person, and some people like to completely swap partners in the same room or otherwise.

The idea is that monogamy is difficult to achieve; some people feel that it is against human nature altogether. So swingers may say that they maintain emotional monogamy to their partner and that the experiences they share sexually outside of their partner are nothing more than exactly that, sexual. Many people in the lifestyle claim that after a lifestyle experience they reconnect with their partner on a level that they have never been able to achieve before.

The swinging lifestyle is not for everyone; some people are never going to be comfortable with the idea of their partner being with somebody else sexually. To be involved in the swinging lifestyle, it is important for all parties to be consensual and comfortable with the experience. Open communication is important and essential for this type of activity. Many people worry that their careers or home life will be affected by the exposure of being in the swinging lifestyle. This type of lifestyle would not typically be accepted by most neighborhoods, careers, or even close friends. Many people remain in the shadows on their involvement in the swinging lifestyle. Trust and discretion are essential when choosing another couple or person to engage in this lifestyle. The benefits of the openness and vulnerability of a couple are very difficult to explain to those who do not understand or have never engaged in this type of relationship. There is a lot of curiosity around the lifestyle and very few resources for people searching for information. This is ultimately why Double Date Nation wants to contribute to the availability of useful content and information on the swinging lifestyle.