Lifestyle Sisterhood

You have been called a goddess, queen, matriarch, sister, madam, maiden, girl, vixen, seductress, siren, daughter. There are so many words to describe women. It amazes me how many of these words support sexuality. When I think of my fellow woman, I think of compassionate, educator, healer, friend, factory worker,...

COVID-19

What are people in the swinging lifestyle community doing in times like the coronavirus pandemic? What are clubs and resorts doing to address the safety of their patrons? What are you doing to make sure that you are safe? These are all the questions looming around this serious health concern...

Hedonism II

Recently we were fortunate enough to visit Hedo II in Negril, Jamaica. For Dave and I, this was our first trip, and we were not sure what to expect. Anytime that you visit a clothing-optional resort-like Hedo, it always makes it much easier when you know people at the resort...

Benefits of Joining a Lifestyle Dating Site

Open relationships have a long history of potential judgment from the more conservative mindsets. Partner swapping can be regarded as odd or perverted. The truth is that the benefits of open relationships have been around for many generations and will likely only continue to grow. If you and your partner...

In a Perfect World

We don’t live in a perfect world and we never will. The reality of perfection is so out of the realm of possibility; we wouldn’t recognize it if it slapped us on the butt. But I digress, in a perfect world we wouldn’t feel chastised for expressing ourselves as we...

So Many Questions!

Who are other swingers? Where do you find other swingers? Who can we trust? What if we don’t like it? What if only one of us likes the swinging lifestyle? I wish there were a simple, easy solution to answering these questions. The best way to figure these out is...

The Margin of Error in the Lifestyle-Keep it Realistic

In my opinion, we should all have well-defined boundaries. Despite having discussed several scenarios and experiences with our partner, unforeseeable events can and likely, will arise. For instance, close friends of mine have a ‘no kissing’ rule. They do engage in full swap, but they do not kiss other people...

Being a Team Player is Not the Same as Taking One for the Team

The transition to playtime can be awkward enough as it is, but when there is not a four-way attraction and rejection is inevitable, that can be even more awkward. Avoiding this pressure often can lead to the feeling of this pressure overpowering doing the right thing for yourself. It is...

Do ‘Swingers’ Get Jealous?

  Short answer, yes. Those who are in an open relationship will likely experience normal emotional responses. It can happen, jealousy can creep in. Communication is so important. The intentionality may be completely innocent during an explicit experience, but how your partner perceives could be opposite. It is possible to...

How Does a Couple ‘Swing’?

The swinging lifestyle has its challenges. It works well for a secure couple that is sexually uninhibited and curious about expanding their sexual fantasies beyond just their partner. Taking part in this lifestyle will likely be a disaster if both partners are not completely into the idea of it or...