Lifestyle Definitions

Lifestyle

Lifestyle is often referred to as the swinger community as a whole. However the term ‘Lifestyle’ actually encompasses more than just swinging, it includes all groups of people that are sexually open-minded.

Full Swap

A couple that fully trades spouses, for all activities that evening including intercourse.

Same Room

Same room possible full swap as long as everyone is in the same room. It may also mean having sex in a room with another couple, each with their own partner, but have the ability to touch and watch one another.

Newbies

Couples or singles new to the lifestyle.

Vanilla

Non-swinger involved events or people. Anything not associate with the lifestyle would be considered vanilla. Anything event or person considered vanilla would likely not allow or tolerate talk about swinging or sex positive discussions.

Hall Pass

Individuals that have permission to play with another person or couple on their own away and separate from their partner.

Girl/Girl

No sexual interaction with the men, bisexual female play only.

Bull

Single male that is available for NSA experience. The term Bull, leads to the assumption that they are well endowed.

Voyeur

Someone that is sexually aroused by watching others engage in sexual activity.

BDSM

Bondage, Discipline, & SadoMasochism.

FMF

A sexual situation where 2 women (often bisexual) will have sex with one man.

Exhibitionist

Someone that enjoys being watched while engaging in sexual activity or nudity.

Double Date

A couples date with no expectations of play.

Unicorn

A single female interested in meeting other couples.

NSFW

Contains content that is not safe or suitable for work.

Hedonist

A pleasure seeker, self-indulgent.

Versatile

Another term meaning bisexual.

SBM

Single Black Male

SBiM

Single Bi Male

SBiF

Single Bi Female

SBF

Single Black Female

MBM

Married Black Male

MBiC

Married Bisexual Couple

MBF

Married Black Female

MBC

Married Black Couple

MWC

Married White Couple

MWF

Married White Female

MWM

Married White Male

SWM

Single White Male

SWF

Single White Female

Open Relationship

When a couple agrees to have sexual relations with other people.

Safe Word

A word that you and your partner have previously discussed prior to sexual encounters with others, meaning that you not comfortable with the situation.

Dominant

The powerful one, the one who takes control in a relationship and/or during intercourse.

Submissive

The one who gives up control in a relationship and/or during intercourse.

Play

Engaging in sexual activity.

Bareback

No condom used during sexual encounters.

D&D Free

Drug Free & Disease Free

Switch

A swinger how is willing to perform as either a Dom or Sub.

Same Room Play

When a couple plays/swaps in the same room as their partner.

Separate Room Play

When a couple plays/swaps in a different room as their partner.

AC/DC

Bi-Sexual

Host

Provides the meeting place for people in the LS.

BBW

Big Beautiful Woman

Kinky

Engaging in sexual activity that is considered to be out of the normal.

Female Friendly

A woman who enjoys playing with both men and women during play but is not strictly bi-sexual.

Bi-Curious

Someone who would like to engage with someone of the same sex but has not had the opportunity to do so.

On-Premise

Clubs that have play areas, play is permitted.

Off-Premise

Clubs that do not have play areas, play is not permitted.

Meet & Greet

Typically intended for people who are interested in the lifestyle. A no pressure event to meet other like-minded people.

MFM

a sexual situation where the female is having sex with two men in a variety of ways. The two men don't have intentional sexual contact.