What is the first thing you think of when somebody mentions Lifestyle Resort? Sex, parties, and alcohol? Not necessarily, but possible.

Once you arrive at a clothing-optional resort, it can be sensory overload. Many people find themselves pulling back and having immediate panic. Just keep telling yourself it is going to be ok! You don’t have to do anything that you are not comfortable with doing. Of course, there are always exceptions to this, but I believe, for the most part, the pressure is relatively low. Honestly, it is easy to spot a newbie or a first-timer at one of these resorts, just by the behavior. Some LS resorts give you a specific bracelet that ‘labels’ you are a first time visitor, others let you blend in a bit more. Sometimes being a chameleon is too easy, it can be helpful to have another patron of the resort scoop you up out of your shell. When we arrived at a Lifestyle Resort for the first time, we peeked out the window of our room and giggled until we finally just bared all and walked out. It was surprisingly normal. People were just people. All ages, colors, sizes, you name it. It was just a natural environment once we got outside. 

We decided to start in the pool for some instant camouflage, we ordered a drink then drifted around. Before we knew it, we were having conversations with people that became long-time friends. I had a predisposed mindset that the entire visit would be super sexual all of the time; this could not have been farther from the truth. Of course, everyone has their own story to tell and may have a different experience than us. For us, it was low pressure and a lot of fun. After drinks and sun during the day, we retreated to our room to freshen up and rest. We would venture out for dinner after regrouping in our room for a couple of hours. We typically had dinner alone, but there is always room for friends. Dinner was the bridge between relaxation time and party time. After we finished dinner, we would go for a walk on the beach then go back to the room to get dressed for the party.

The theme nights are fun, but not everybody dresses up. I struggled with this so much when we first joined the swinging lifestyle. I thought I had to have every theme down to the detail. Some people love to jump into the theme, and others could care less. I don’t like to pack a lot of extra outfits, so I lean more toward sexy clubwear when I attend the late-night party. Once you are there, you can dance have some drinks and loosen up. Once the night starts to creep away, and the early morning begins to make its way in, people begin to move to the hot tub. The after-party is where things will get sexy, in or out of the hot tub. The great thing is that you can sit back and watch from afar, partake with others, or play together. The choice is yours, and you can also go back to your room and play privately or go to sleep. You are on vacation, after all, don’t let it stress you. You are there as a couple, and your decisions are as a couple, plain and simple, so have fun!