How To Prep For A Threesome

In Part II of our threesome discussion, we share questions and prompts to consider before you have a threesome — for individuals and couples. We also share some of our listeners’ insights on threesomes and discuss couples’ privilege.

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Threesomes: Self-Questionnaire 

  • Why do you want to have a threesome?
  • Where did the idea of a threesome come from? How do you feel about this source?
  • What benefits do you expect to derive from a threesome?
  • What are the perceived risks/costs?
  • With whom would you like to have a threesome? Do you know if they’re open to it?
  • How might your relationship with your threesome mates change post-threesome?
  • What excites you most about a threesome? What motivates you?
  • What concerns you about a threesome? Do you have any hesitations?
  • What emotional elements of a threesome have you considered?
  • What emotional elements of a threesome have you considered?
  • How will you manage potentially challenging emotions should they arise?
  • Do you feel comfortable communicating your desires and boundaries? What conditions increase your comfort level with open communication?
  • What does your ideal threesome entail? Consider the setting, relationships, involved parties, sex acts, etc..

Threesomes: Managing Jealousy, Insecurity & Distress 

  • Am I comfortable admitting to feelings of jealousy, insecurity and distress?
  • I tend to feel jealous/insecure/distressed when…
  • When I feel jealous/insecure/distressed, it shows up in my body as…(emotional presence)
  • When I feel jealous/insecure/distressed, I want to…
  • When I feel jealous/insecure/distressed, I can self-soothe by…
  • When I feel jealous/insecure/distressed, I’d like you to…
  • When I feel jealous/insecure/distressed, I don’t want you to…
  • You’ll know when I feel jealous/insecure/distressed when I…Some other cues to look for include…

Threesomes: Couples’ Questionnaire 

  • Whose idea was it? Do you feel any pressure? Have you (in)directly pressured your partner?
  • Why do you/we want to have a threesome?
  • What do you/we hope to get out of the experience?
  • What are my/our concerns about the experience?
  • Have we talked about jealousy, insecurity and other potentially challenging emotions we might encounter?
  • What would it look like if it goes well?
  • What might it look like if something goes awry? How will we communicate and respond?
  • What do we value in a third-party? What type of person do we want to connect with?
  • Do we want to involve a stranger, an acquaintance, a friend and/or a sex worker?
  • Have we considered our couples’ privilege and how we can ensure that all voices are heard and respected?

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