8: Talk to me, Goose! Communicating in the lifestyle

Nope, it’s not a cheesy 80’s movie “quote-along,” it’s another episode of Casual Swinger!

**Note – We had some funky audio issues that presented themselves after we recorded this episode.  Sorry guys!  We’ll have it sorted for the next show, but we’re definitely aware!**

Today we’re getting together to talk about our communication fails in our lifestyle journey and the importance of communication as lifestylers.  Whether you’re communicating amongst yourselves or with new friends, you’ll either pick up some tips for your own adventures or just get a laugh out of us screwing up ours!

Once we’re done talking about how wrong we did it, we’ll talk about some “exit strategies,” or ways to communicate your way out of (or into!) situations in the LS.

Finally, we cover a swing club in Sacramento that doubled as a CHURCH and was recently shut down by city administrators.  Persecution or enforcing the law?  Find out more about the situation on Swingin’ in the news!

Segment 1

Intro & travels – All about our new episode, holiday woes, and what we’ve been up to since our last podcast, plus what’s coming up soon!  – 00:46

Segment 2 

“Talk to me, Goose!” Communicating in the lifestyle, why we totally sucked at it, and what we learned from the experience.  08:40

Segment 3

Exit Strategies – subtle ways to communicate your wants and needs with your partners in the lifestyle, and the most important things to remember while you’re at it.  37:54

Bonus – Swingin’ in the news!

A Sacramento lifestyle club gets shut down by authorities, but is everything what it seems?  A church, and meeting place, a social club…when is a lifestyle club something else entirely, and is it really cut & dry?  We tell you all about it and leave the rest for you to decide.  56:12



Suspected Sex Club Shut Down
Neighbors Outraged Over Sex Club
Tabu Social Club in MD
Naughty in Nawlins


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